Taking a Stand.

Sex. It's something many don't talk a lot about, and something many do not understand. So what makes it good? What makes it right? Taking a stand can be criticized when it comes to sex, but hey! If I don't make this interesting and you don't agree, why would you read my blog? Let's take a look.

Sex should be between a man and a woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife. This is my opinion, and I truly believe that when sex is between a husband and wife, the couple will be much happier, in the moment and later in their lives. For the rest of this post, that's the perspective I will be taking and applying. Sex serves two purposes: to bond the couple as they express their love physically, and to create life and have children and a family. 

Did you know that in order for women to enjoy having sex with their husband she needs to feel safe, close and connected. But, for men it is the opposite. In order to feel safe, close and connected  he needs to have sex. 

Here are some problems people encounter with sex: selfishness, perceiving that your partner is being selfish, simple misunderstandings, communication problems, what the media and the world portrays sex to be and those false expectations, the concept that sex is dirty or naughty, resentment stemming from giving too much of yourself, awkwardness, and infidelity. 

So how can we prevent these problems and increase our overall marital satisfaction? 

One thing is to take the time to "affair-proof" our marriages, having open communication between yourself and your spouse, finding a way to love each other kindly, create clear boundaries with the people who have an influence on our marriages, actually having intimacy in the relationship, and not, under any circumstances spending time with members of the opposite sex alone.
What do you think? Do you agree? Do you have to be married to enjoy physical intimacy? What helps enrich your relationships and what tears them down? Let me know and post below!