This is one of my favorite quotes. Maybe that's because it's true. People think that love comes all at once and you just sorta fall and don't know what's going on and it's unsettling and crazy and just wonderful. While this happens to some, it certainly doesn't happen to all of us. When you look at love, there isn't a way to measure it, command it, or give it away. We can try, and we can do our best, but it can't be controlled.
I think that love can be fast and furious, but it can be slow and sweet. For a real, lasting, worthwhile relationship, often times you end up being with your best friend.
There is a process of "falling" in love. You need to know someone first. After you get to know them (by talking, spending quality time, and being together in different situations), you can slowly start to trust them. Once you know you can trust them, you can actually rely on them. After you can rely on them, then comes the ability to commit to that person. After you commit, that's when it's alright to touch. I think that this sets up two people for a good relationship. When things get out of order, the relationship becomes unstable, and the levels of trust, reliability and commitment all become skewed. For example, if you give someone a kiss before you trust them, it will change your level of commitment and reliance on them. And your level of trust will definitely change, even if you don't really trust them.
So you see, love does come slowly. Love is gentle, love is kind. Love is having someone else on your mind. When you are able to put someone else before yourself and you know them well enough to be sure that they put you first, that's when there is love.
I think that love can be fast and furious, but it can be slow and sweet. For a real, lasting, worthwhile relationship, often times you end up being with your best friend.
There is a process of "falling" in love. You need to know someone first. After you get to know them (by talking, spending quality time, and being together in different situations), you can slowly start to trust them. Once you know you can trust them, you can actually rely on them. After you can rely on them, then comes the ability to commit to that person. After you commit, that's when it's alright to touch. I think that this sets up two people for a good relationship. When things get out of order, the relationship becomes unstable, and the levels of trust, reliability and commitment all become skewed. For example, if you give someone a kiss before you trust them, it will change your level of commitment and reliance on them. And your level of trust will definitely change, even if you don't really trust them.
So you see, love does come slowly. Love is gentle, love is kind. Love is having someone else on your mind. When you are able to put someone else before yourself and you know them well enough to be sure that they put you first, that's when there is love.
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